How Much is Too Much? Finding Your Catalyst for Change
Have you ever found yourself crying on the way to work, wiping your eyes in the car before stepping into another day that feels heavier than the last?
I have.
More than once, actually. And even though I knew things were bad — the bullying, the toxic culture, the weight of it all pressing in — I stayed. I pushed through, because like so many others, I needed the job. I needed the income. I had responsibilities. And so I endured it. Day after day.
We don’t always realise how much we’re tolerating until we’re looking back. Sometimes, it’s only with distance that we can see just how long we held our breath, hoping something would shift, praying something would give — anything but us.
But eventually, we do reach a point. A moment of clarity, or collapse, or maybe quiet rebellion. A point where the discomfort of staying starts to outweigh the fear of changing.
So…
When is enough, enough?
How do you know when you’re ready for something different — something better?
And maybe more importantly —
Are you already there, but just haven’t admitted it to yourself yet?
We’re so good at soldiering on. We tell ourselves it’s not that bad. That we’re just being dramatic. That things will get better if we just hang in there a little longer. And sometimes they do. But sometimes… the real shift comes when we finally decide to stop tolerating what’s tearing us apart.
In my own life, those hardest moments — the ones that broke me down — also broke me open. They nudged me toward growth I couldn’t yet see. They became the starting point of personal transformation.
But that didn’t happen overnight.
It started with noticing patterns.
Getting honest with myself.
Asking:
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What am I really putting up with here?
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Why am I staying?
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What would it take for me to finally choose something else?
So I want to gently ask you now —
What’s your tipping point?
What would need to happen for you to say, “No more”?
And what might become possible if you gave yourself permission to change before everything falls apart?
The truth is: you don’t need to wait until breaking point to begin again.
Your moment of “enough” doesn’t have to be dramatic. It can be quiet. It can be a whisper. It can be today.
If this speaks to something deep inside you — that quiet knowing that it’s time for something to shift — you’re not alone. And you don’t have to do it alone.
This is exactly the kind of space we hold in our Transform coaching program. A space where we explore your readiness for change, your patterns, your permission to live differently — and what’s really possible when you start saying yes to yourself.
But more on that soon.
For now, I just want you to sit with this one question:
Have you already reached your “enough…” and are you finally ready to honour it?
Let me know if you are interested in learning more for your own journey (email me! connect@queenbe.com.au).